how I meditate: redefining the art of self-reflection

I’m on this spiritual journey, y’all…I’m aligning these chakras,  nourishing my soul, taking the time to understand my body and its needs and vibrating higher everyday! And I’m finally starting to gain momentum, I’m getting the hang of this magick shit and it is quite lovely. One of the concepts I’ve had the longest time unfolding has been this idea of merging…

celibacy as sexual freedom

          The definition of celibacy has been widely accepted by society (though defined specifically by the Roman Catholic church) as abstinence from any and all sexual relations, so first and foremost let me be clear that I define it as abstinence from outside sexual relations in an effort to better know thyself… Allow…

birth control (system) pt1

Birth control is defined as the intentional practice of preventing unwanted pregnancies typically by use of contraception. The history of birth control is tough but beautiful and diverse. Thousands of methods, ranging from inserting crocodile dung into the vagina to tying raccoon testicles to the body, have been created and implemented by women from as…

wtf is good hair?

       From as early as I can remember, society has been arguing about the varying levels of hair politics. From discussing if perming is cultural appropriation to challenging the notion that women can’t rock a light caesar, hair has always stirred up controversy especially among communities of color. One of my favorites of all…

my hair is my halo

I’d been relaxing my hair for over 10 years, when on my 20th birthday I decided I wasn’t going to do it anymore. I was tired of the smelly chemicals, scabs on my head from perm burns (yes this is a thing), the long and obnoxious process and most importantly I was dying to know what…

on “giving it up”

            You ever notice that when we talk about a woman having sex, we often refer to the act as her “giving it up?” I can’t begin to tell you all the times I’ve been told to be careful “who I give it up to” or to be wary before…