celibacy as sexual freedom

          The definition of celibacy has been widely accepted by society (though defined specifically by the Roman Catholic church) as abstinence from any and all sexual relations, so first and foremost let me be clear that I define it as abstinence from outside sexual relations in an effort to better know thyself… Allow…

birth control (system) pt1

Birth control is defined as the intentional practice of preventing unwanted pregnancies typically by use of contraception. The history of birth control is tough but beautiful and diverse. Thousands of methods, ranging from inserting crocodile dung into the vagina to tying raccoon testicles to the body, have been created and implemented by women from as…

on “giving it up”

            You ever notice that when we talk about a woman having sex, we often refer to the act as her “giving it up?” I can’t begin to tell you all the times I’ve been told to be careful “who I give it up to” or to be wary before…

on searching for ‘the one’

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve fantasized about what it would be like to meet my prince charming, my knight in shining armor. Shit, sometimes I still do. I wonder how it’ll feel when our bodies touch for the first time or how it’ll sound when he first tells me he loves me. At…

when you love hard

If you were ever to ask someone who really knew me how they’d describe me, it’s likely that the word ‘passionate’ would, at some point, come up in that conversation. When I’m passionate about something or someone, it’s quite clear. You hear it in the power of my voice when I speak, you can feel…

true life: I’m a serial polyamorist pt.2

         From the outside looking in, I know this all seems great, right? It must be amazing to live vicariously through the idea of my tantalizing sexcacpades with multiple lovers and think I’m living the life, but the truth is it’s not all fun and games when you’re free-spirited yet bound by…

true life: I’m a serial polyamorist pt. 1

pol·y·am·o·ryˌ (pälēˈamərē) noun: the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time.        I know what you’re probably wondering; can you TRULY love two people at the same time? Well, I sure do… allow me to explain. Raul and I met through mutual…

perfectly imperfect

I’ve been searching for acceptance for a long time, until I realized that I didn’t even have my own and that was why I always felt so heavy with the weight of other people’s resentment toward me. truth is, though, I don’t owe anyone my perfection, especially not if I can’t even give it to myself. truth is, maybe…